The Science of Falling in Love
Love is often described as heartwarming,heart-wrenching and even heartbreaking.
So, what does the brain have to do with it?
Everything!
==The journey from first spark to last tear is guided by a symphony of neurochemicals and brain systems.==
As you begin to fall for someone, you may find yourself excessively daydreaming about them, and wanting to spend more and more time together.
This first stage of love is what psychologists call ==infatuation, or passionate love== .
Your new relationship can feel almost ==intoxicating== , and ==when it comes to the brain, that’s not far from the truth== .
Infatuated individuals show increased activation in the ventral tegmental area.
The VTA is the reward-processing and motivation hub of the brain, firing when you do things like ==eat a sweet treat== , ==quench your thirst== , or in more extreme cases, take drugs of abuse.
Activation releases the “feel good” neurotransmitter dopamine, ==teaching your brain to repeat behaviors in anticipation of receiving the same initial reward==.
This increased VTA activity is the reason love’s not only ==euphoric== , but also draws you towards your new partner.
At this first stage, it may be hard to see any ==faults== in your new perfect partner.
This ==haze== is thanks to love’s influence on higher cortical brain regions.
Some newly infatuated individuals show decreased activity in the brain’s ==cognitive== center, ==the prefrontal cortex== .
As activation of this region allows us to engage in critical thought and pass judgment, it’s not surprising we tend to see new relationships through rose-colored glasses.
While this first stage of love can be an intense ==rollercoaster== of emotions and brain activity, it typically only lasts a few months, ==making way== for the more long-lasting stage of love, known as attachment, or compassionate love.
As your relationship develops, you may feel more relaxed and committed to your partner thanks in large part to two hormones: oxytocin and vasopressin.
Known as pair-bonding hormones, they signal trust, feelings of social support and attachment.
In this way, romantic love is not unlike other forms of love, as these hormones also help bond families and friendships.
Further, oxytocin can inhibit the release of stress hormones, which is why spending time with a loved one can feel so relaxing.
As early love’s suspension of judgment fades, it can be replaced by a more honest understanding and deeper connection.
Alternatively, as your rose-colored glasses begin to lose their ==tint== , problems in your relationship may become more evident.
No matter the reason a relationship ends, we can blame the pain that accompanies heartbreak on the brain.
==The distress of a breakup== activates the ==insular== cortex, a region that processes pain—both physical, like ==spraining== your ankle, as well as social, like the feelings of ==rejection== .
As days pass, you may find yourself once again daydreaming about or ==craving== contact with your lost partner.
The drive to reach out may feel overwhelming, like an extreme hunger or thirst.
When looking at photos of a former partner, heartbroken individuals again show increased activity in the VTA, the motivation and reward center that drove feelings of longing during the initial stages of the relationship.
This emotional ==whirlwind== also likely activates your body’s alarm system, the stress axis, leaving you feeling shaken and restless.
As time goes on, higher cortical regions which ==oversee== reasoning and impulse control, can ==pump== the brakes on this distress and craving signaling.
Given that these regions are still maturing and making connections through adolescence, it’s no wonder that first heartbreak can feel particularly ==agonizing== .
Activities like exercise, spending time with friends, or even listening to your favorite song can ==tame== this heartbreak stress response, while also triggering the release of feel-good neurotransmitter dopamine.
And given time and support, most can heal and learn from even the most ==devastating== heartbreak.
爱常常被形容为温暖人心、令人心痛甚至心碎。
那么,大脑与爱有什么关系呢?
息息相关!
==从最初的心动到最后的泪水,这一旅程由一系列神经化学物质和大脑系统引导。==
当你开始爱上某人时,你可能会发现自己过度地幻想他们,并且想要花越来越多的时间在一起。
爱情的第一阶段就是心理学家所说的 ==迷恋,或激情之爱== 。
你新的恋情可能会让人感觉几乎 ==如痴如醉== ,而 ==就大脑而言,这并非言过其实== 。
处于迷恋状态的人腹侧被盖区的激活会增强。
腹侧被盖区是大脑处理奖励和产生动机的中枢,当你做诸如 ==吃甜食== 、==解渴== 之类的事情时,或者在更极端的情况下,吸食毒品时,它就会被激活。
这种激活会释放“感觉良好”的神经递质多巴胺,==促使你的大脑重复这些行为,期待获得同样的初始奖励== 。
腹侧被盖区活动的增强不仅是爱情让人 ==欣喜若狂== 的原因,也是它将你吸引到新伴侣身边的原因。
在这个第一阶段,你可能很难看到你完美新伴侣的任何 ==缺点== 。
这种 ==朦胧感== 要归功于爱情对大脑更高皮层区域的影响。
一些刚陷入迷恋的人,其大脑的 ==认知== 中枢,即前额叶皮层的活动会减少。
由于这个区域的激活使我们能够进行批判性思考和做出判断,所以我们倾向于戴着玫瑰色眼镜看待新恋情也就不足为奇了。
虽然爱情的第一阶段可能是情感和大脑活动的激烈 ==过山车== ,但它通常只持续几个月,==为更持久的爱情阶段让路== ,这个阶段被称为依恋,或深情之爱。
随着你们关系的发展,在很大程度上要归功于两种激素,你可能会对伴侣感到更放松和更有归属感: 催产素和加压素。
它们被称为伴侣关系激素,传递信任、社会支持感和依恋感。
这样一来,浪漫之爱与其他形式的爱并无不同,因为这些激素也有助于维系家庭和友谊。
此外,催产素可以抑制压力激素的释放,这就是为什么与爱人共度时光会让人感觉如此放松。
随着早期爱情中判断的暂停逐渐消失,它可能会被更真实的理解和更深层次的联系所取代。
或者,当你的玫瑰色眼镜开始失去 ==色彩== 时,你们关系中的问题可能会变得更加明显。
无论一段关系结束的原因是什么,我们都可以将心碎带来的痛苦归咎于大脑。
==分手的痛苦== 会激活脑岛皮层,这个区域处理身体疼痛,比如 ==扭伤== 脚踝,也处理社交疼痛,比如被 ==拒绝== 的感觉。
随着时间的推移,你可能会发现自己再次幻想或 ==渴望== 与失去的伴侣联系。
想要联系的冲动可能会让人感觉难以抗拒,就像极度的饥饿或口渴一样。
当看到前任伴侣的照片时,心碎的人腹侧被盖区的活动会再次增强,腹侧被盖区是在恋情最初阶段引发渴望感的动机和奖励中枢。
这种情感 ==旋风== 也可能会激活你身体的警报系统,即应激轴,让你感到震惊和不安。
随着时间的推移,负责 ==监督== 推理和冲动控制的更高皮层区域可以 ==踩下刹车== ,抑制这种痛苦和渴望信号。
鉴于这些区域在整个青春期仍在发育并建立联系,难怪第一次心碎会感觉格外 ==痛苦== 。
像锻炼、与朋友共度时光,甚至听你最喜欢的歌曲这样的活动可以 ==缓解== 这种心碎的应激反应,同时还会触发感觉良好的神经递质多巴胺的释放。
并且只要有时间和支持,大多数人即使经历了最 ==毁灭性== 的心碎也能痊愈并从中学习。
Vocabulary, Phrases and Sentences
Word | Chinese Definition | Phonetic Symbol |
---|---|---|
The journey from first spark to last tear is guided by a symphony of neurochemicals and brain systems | 从最初的心动到最后的泪水,这段旅程由一系列神经化学物质和大脑系统共同引导 | |
symphony | 交响乐 | |
infatuation | 迷恋,热恋 | |
passionate love | 热烈的爱 | |
intoxicating | 令人陶醉的的 | |
eat a sweet treat | 吃甜食 | |
quench your thirst | 解渴 | |
euphoric | 兴高采烈地 | /juːˈfɔːrɪk/ |
haze | 薄雾 | |
prefrontal | 前额的 | |
cortex | 皮质 | |
rollercoaster | 过山车 | |
make way for | 让路 | |
tint | 色调 | |
insular | 岛屿的 | |
sprain | 扭伤 | |
crave | 渴望 | |
whirlwind | 旋风 | |
oversee | 监督 | |
pump | 抽水机 | |
agonize | 苦苦思索,焦虑不已 | |
tame | 驯服 | |
devastate | 摧毁 |